Valentines Day Everyday.

Feeling the light of the sun from an opening of your window disturb your sleep and instead of getting annoyed and covering your eyes with a pillow to avoid the light, you smile and open your eyes slowly while embracing the light. Its a brand new day! Jump out of bed and say your prayers and thanks to God for letting you live another day. Look at yourself in the mirror and notice your every wrinkle, your every spot, pimple and blemish and say " oh, I don't look perfect. Thank God!''. Look into your 'to do list' for the day and jump into the shower with hopes of achieving your daily goals that will help you achieve your main goal in life. 

Why? because you love yourself enough to be the best that you can be, Why? because nobody else can live your life but yourself and you better live it to the fullest!,Why? because apart from mommy nobody else can love you more than you can love yourself, and Why? because you deserve the best and won't settle for less.

Self love is the most important lesson we need to learn especially as young ambitious women. Many out there will try to put an ambitious woman down by making her feel like what she is doing is wrong and she shouldn't want more in life than just a normal life, like being extra ordinary is a sin. Self love is not an easy lesson, it takes a lot of years for one to truly appreciate themselves. Young ladies struggle with themselves all through their teen years,the lucky ones will get to learn self love in their early 20's and other a little later in life. Self love is more than just looking good, dressing good and showing off your body. Self love is knowing yourself as an individual, knowing your strengths and your weaknesses, taking care of your body by eating healthy and staying fit. Self love is also about knowing what really matters from what shouldn't even be an issue in your life, setting your priorities and being aware of your options, setting goals in life and working on achieving them, planning your life in a way that allows you to live up to your full potential. Self love is enjoying every moment without missing a minute of your life showing love and appreciating those that love you.

Its Valentines day everyday when you learn to love yourself fully without a doubt, when you truly love yourself that's when you can fully love someone else and have a fulfilling relationship. If you don't love yourself then who else will?

Troubled waters.

When someone around you has made you doubt everything they said or did after just one incident. When you feel confused about your future, your present and your past ... you can't seem to see the difference. When that person you trusted with your life has let you down over the most worthless reason. When you don't know who to believe, who to trust, who can help and who you need to see. When life just feels unreal, unbareable and unfair. When you feel like you are a time bomb just waiting to explode and get it over with. That sick feeling in the stomach that makes you hate everything around you and you feel like everyone is out to get you. You look so calm and simple from the outside but so deep, troubled and complex inside.

How does one deal with such misery?... slow down, close your eyes, take a deep breath. Open your eyes slowly and look again, is it as bad as you think or are your emotions and over thinking that is making you feel like you are just drowning?. Things are bad, but they could be worse... always remember someone out there is having it worse than you. Get yourself together and think of all the good things and people in your life. Think of how you have more than those who are having very less. Pray to whatever God you believe in because meditation is said to calm the nerves. Smile... really a smile helps more than you know, think happy positive thoughts. There is always a solution to every problem, if there isn't one the its probably not a problem and you are just over thinking the situation and blowing it out of proportion. Happiness is a choice and is something that is found from within, not from other people or things around you. When you decide to be happy you will see things in a different light and might just realize you opened a door to all the solutions and opportunities you thought were impossible to find.

Troubled waters can always be calmed by taking control of the situation and not letting a situation control you.

Will the glass ever be full?

A glass... or for some a cup. I use this as a metaphor of how I see human behaviors, we are like a glass that never becomes full and therefore needs to be filled continuously. We live and we learn, we experience and we make memories, all this fills the glass everyday. Our achievements too, our riches... it is known that humans are never satisfied with themselves. One can wish to have a mansion and works so hard to achieve that dream, luckily they endup making their dream come true then they start thinking something is missing and start wanting something else or a bigger and much complex mansion and etc. With that said, we go back to the glass again, its never filled because apart from all the memories, lessons, achievements and riches, we will always want more. Very few are those who would feel satisfied when they get what they want and even they still add on to their lives...

Apart from achievements, even in relationships we always want more. Demands grow as the relationship grows, those who are lucky or we can say 'meant' to be together will always complete each other one way or the other and those who were just not lucky end up going separate ways because they couldn't handle the other's demands. They say true love is enough, but is it really enough in the world of today?, people have gotten so money driven that material things mean more than life itself. The demands are often materialistic than emotional. It is said that today people are more scared of failing in life than being scared of death. That's how driven people are now a days, question is will there ever be enough to give all these driven people what they want?, when it comes to love it only takes two people who really want to be together and are working towards staying together, Otherwise most of these relationships don't work because neither of the people involved put staying together and making things work as one of their priorities. Their priority is just making it in life and they are really not ready for "that" kind of relationship where "true love" is involved.

The question is will the glass ever be full?... my answer is the only time it stops getting empty is when it breaks, the only time we will ever stop wanting more is when our time is up and its time to leave earth, the only time we will be satisfied is when we are dead.

Deeper than the ocean?

Emotions run deep... sometimes deeper than we expect. A lot happens in life that makes one question their morals, principal, faith, goals and even their existence. When that happens should we dwell on the negativity surrounding the situation or look at it with a positive outlook? That's not the question, the question should be do you want  your life to be dark or bright?. If you like it dark then that explains the negativity surrounding you. Its always a choice when it comes to how you react to situations, you do not just fail or feel hopeless, you chose to fail and feel hopeless. Learn to identify with yourself, know your weaknesses, your strengths, no need to pretend with yourself. Be true to yourself and work towards improving that which you are not happy with. You think you are fat or unhealthy?, work out, change your diet (eat HEALTHY, don't starve yourself), you want to ace that exam? study for it! Procrastination is the king of all chaos... when you don't do what you are supposed to do, and when you are supposed to do it you start to feel the pressure and start doubting your capabilities which would lead to bad emotional state with life.

When it comes to love...emotions and confusion run even deeper. There are some who cannot differentiate between the love of a parent or sibling and the love of a significant other. Sure we all know the basics, but your significant other cannot love you like your mama or daddy. You simply cannot have your full trust in someone who never saw you walk your first step or heard say your first word and expect him/her to love you with the same pure true love of the ones who raised you. If you expect too much then you will almost always be disappointed. Everyone has baggage, we all have gone through that love that made us see things differently in love, that one love that made us realize we had rose colored glasses on and needed to take them off to face reality. Then there are those who cannot take the painful reality so they paint their own story, well if that makes you sleep at night then so be it, but always know the reality to your perfectly painted story. Love is hard, love is confusing, love is amazing, love is fascinating, love is a bunch of lies, love is beautiful and love can be ugly too... it all depends on you.